If something is happening in your life right now that you cannot change, cannot control, and cannot fast forward, and it is annoying the heck out of you or hurting you deeply, this episode is going to give you the one thing that will change everything without anything external having to shift. I have been called the Queen of Reframing, and today I want to give you this tool completely, because it is the single most powerful thing I know from psychology. We do not see the world the way the world is. We see the world the way we are. And that means we have the power to change the way we see things so that we can change the world we are looking at.
Reframing is like changing the frame on a picture. The sunset in the painting stays exactly the same. The circumstance does not change. But when you put a new frame around it, suddenly it belongs in the most beautiful room in your home. I learned this viscerally when I had two daughters hospitalized at the same time, one with pneumonia and one with RSV, and I was standing alone in the waiting room about to fall apart. I made myself stop and find every single thing I could be grateful for in that moment. The hospital five minutes from my house, the insurance, the support system, the knowledge that both of my girls were going to walk out of there. And by the time I walked back into those rooms, I had so much peace and gratitude in my heart that I thought, bring it on. That is what reframing does. It does not minimize the pain. It reclaims your power.
In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
We do not see the world the way the world is. We see it the way we are, which means we have the power to change our experience of life without anything external having to change first.
Reframing is not about denying the pain or justifying what is wrong. It is about changing the perspective so that you can reclaim your peace and approach the situation from a place of power instead of a place of reaction.
The stories you are telling yourself about your circumstances are not objective truth. They are chosen perspectives. And if you have been telling yourself stories all along, you might as well choose the ones that serve you.
Reframing creates a ripple effect. When you shift your perspective, you shift your emotions. When you shift your emotions, you shift your actions. And when you shift your actions, you influence the behavior of everyone around you, including the people you most want to reach.
Gratitude is the fastest path to reframing. When you actively look for what is right about a situation, even a devastating one, you access one of the highest frequency emotions available to you, and from that place, everything else begins to shift.
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